A new Address

Hello Friends...
I have loved being here, but it is time for me to take this show on the road. I hope that you will visit me at the new home for the Money Minded Mommy.
There will be more to share and some fun, too.

See you soon.

Are you overwhelmed?

Have you ever arrived at home and not remembered the drive?
Or, found that you do not have enough time(or think you don't have enough time) to complete simple tasks?

Oh, Oh! Another major indicator...have you ever thought about just running away from home?

If any of these situations ring a bell, you may be an overwhelmed mom.

"Well, Blynsay, do tell. This is old news".

You're right! Not new, I remember coming home from school some days and wondering if this would be the day that my mother did not come home. When things got tough, she would murmur about walking away from home and not looking back.

This is not a new scenario, but these feelings and experiences are happening to more and more working, striving, capable moms and dads. More and more people are at the end of their ropes with no knots in sight.

I know you are thinking how terrible, you poor neglected thing. Well this is not a poor Me session and I am not looking for sympathy. This is something that needs to be said and this Money-minded Mommy is willing to say it!

We are overwhelmed! We have too much to do and too many stressors that drive us to believe that we are not, do not and cannot be ENOUGH! Is this something you may feel?

I know that I have felt this many times. For example, when the young King was tiny, I fretted daily about the things that I could not get done while taking care of a newborn baby. Nothing earth shattering, but I could not keep in immaculate home, a perfect manicure, and band-box fresh clothing while pursuing the care and feeding of another human being.

OK, this is shallow. And of course, good mothers do not think about having "roots" (you know what I mean), needing a fill-in and the inability to maneuver 3 1/2 " heels while toting a baby carrier, a briefcase and a full diaper bag. In the grand scheme of things, these inconveniences were just that, but they were things that were supremely important to me, pre-child.

According to Merriam-Webster.com, to be overwhelmed is to be overpowered in thought and feeling. When I read this, I had to stop and think. Thought and feeling. This is internal stuff! Could it be that the major stressors in my life, the things that I think are pulling me under are self-generated? Say it isn't so!

Yes it is!!
Our world is created within. For real, it's in the Bible (Proverbs 23:7), and other good books.

This meant that some (most, OK all) of these un-natural, un-realistic and just plain crazy demands were placed on me-by me!

Oh! This has to STOP!

Sorry for yelling, but is just occurred to me that I have been putting the screws to myself.

What am I trying to do?! Be perfect?!

Exactly, but the problem with this is that I am trying to seek perfection from an imperfect recipe. Everywhere I look I see it. Every woman I know (and have ever known) is pulled to and fro by good causes, work projects that you feel a need to give 120 percent to, the myth of the perfect child, or spouses and significant others, that although they are grown, we feel the need to nurture. A lot of unnecessary foolishness!

And if you complain people look at you crazy for they are in the club, and the pressure to join the club is enormous. I don't want to join the club; I want to live a good life, but who am I to think I can do something else.

Glad you asked! I'm reminded that I am Blynsay, a money-minded mommy who intends to live a prosperous life one her own terms. So to do that I have some things to remember, to take off the pressure.

1. Remember that it is my life and I pay the bill.
   If I live on someone else's terms, and according to their viewpoint, I still am responsible for the outcomes of my life. If I have to pay the bill; then I get to make the choice.
2. Remember to find my own level.
   That means that I need to take the time to assess the situation at hand and my ability to respond and then determine to do my best.
3. Remember that my best can change from day to day.
   Every day brings new challenges that effect "my best". I have to love myself enough my best to be 110 percent or 30 percent.
4. Remember to ask for help.
   I don't have to do it alone. I may need to run away from home, (to the mall for a latte or that pair of navy blue sling backs with the steel heels) and getting someone to watch the kids can be just what I need to help you carry on.
5. Remember that I sign my own report card.
   If I have to choose between the opinions of the world and my own heart's leading, my heart wins every time.

Woo, can I do it?! Well, I have to try, because I have not been able to post this for two weeks because I was trying to make it perfect! Trying to measure what I wanted to say by someone else's measuring stick.

Well these tips are going on the fridge,a nd the bathroom mirror and anywhere else I can see them so that I can begin to stop this madness and live. Live a quiet life; a life on my own terms.

Wish me luck.

OMG-Where has the time gone?!

It seems like just yesterday that I turned off my computer and sat down for a long, summer's nap. What happens when you lose track of time?
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

Well the Money Minded Mommy is back; live and in living color. No more stalling for just the perfect phrase or the well turned verse. I have post! I have to publish! I live to write.

Now what Mom n' M needs is feed back.

Give me your ear and your thoughts; I have no problem giving a plug to those who contribute.

Let's do it together.

Will see you again soon...Count on it!